My younger cousin asked me recently why I don't have a boyfriend. It's simple, really. I have set very high expectations for the man I will marry and I won't date anyone unless I could see myself someday marrying them. I know that some qualities will only come about as this guy matures, but others should at least be present, even if they need some work. This might sound stupid to those of you who think that dating is about getting to know someone and having fun, but newsflash! That isn't what dating is for, that's what friendship is for! Friends can get to know each other and have fun, minus any of the pressure that being in a relationship can cause. I mean, I don't know about you, but I would be a whole lot less offended if my friend forgot the date that we met than if my boyfriend forgot our ''anniversary''.
One quality I'm looking for is loyalty. Loyalty with an attention span. As an almost impossible trait to find in guys, (especially teenaged ones.) it's one that I value really highly. If a guy is willing to be just friends first, and at the same time not flirt with other girls or be looking for a quicker option, I tend to be impressed. (And that's saying something, because I'm pretty hard to impress.) Listen up, guys: If you are only interested in being my boyfriend, and not my friend, then don't even bother. If a guy can prove to me that he'll stick around, even if another girl has him on her radar, he has just taken a giant leap forward in my mind. Guys get bored easily, but the right guy for me won't get bored with me. So far I haven't found that, so that tells me that I haven't found the right guy for me yet.
I take dating and relationships seriously. I want my first boyfriend to be my only boyfriend. I don't want to find someone to spend the next two weeks with, I want to find someone to spend the rest of my life with. I don't want to just "have fun", I want to find someone who will make me better and be bettered by me. Someone who can make me laugh but also take me seriously. Someone who will love God even more than he loves me. Someone who knows all of my faults and quirks, but loves me anyways. Yes, it's a lot, but the way I see it, either I find a guy that meets my expectations, or I don't get married. If it's in God's will for me to have a husband, then He'll give me one. If it isn't, then He won't. When I made my list of must have qualities, (Yes, there's a list. Don't hate.) I made up my mind to be okay with whatever happens. Of course I'd love to have a husband and children, but our will isn't always God's.
One quality I'm looking for is loyalty. Loyalty with an attention span. As an almost impossible trait to find in guys, (especially teenaged ones.) it's one that I value really highly. If a guy is willing to be just friends first, and at the same time not flirt with other girls or be looking for a quicker option, I tend to be impressed. (And that's saying something, because I'm pretty hard to impress.) Listen up, guys: If you are only interested in being my boyfriend, and not my friend, then don't even bother. If a guy can prove to me that he'll stick around, even if another girl has him on her radar, he has just taken a giant leap forward in my mind. Guys get bored easily, but the right guy for me won't get bored with me. So far I haven't found that, so that tells me that I haven't found the right guy for me yet.
I take dating and relationships seriously. I want my first boyfriend to be my only boyfriend. I don't want to find someone to spend the next two weeks with, I want to find someone to spend the rest of my life with. I don't want to just "have fun", I want to find someone who will make me better and be bettered by me. Someone who can make me laugh but also take me seriously. Someone who will love God even more than he loves me. Someone who knows all of my faults and quirks, but loves me anyways. Yes, it's a lot, but the way I see it, either I find a guy that meets my expectations, or I don't get married. If it's in God's will for me to have a husband, then He'll give me one. If it isn't, then He won't. When I made my list of must have qualities, (Yes, there's a list. Don't hate.) I made up my mind to be okay with whatever happens. Of course I'd love to have a husband and children, but our will isn't always God's.
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